The Happiness Coach Podcast with Lori Brant
Season 1, Episode 9: Giving Without Attachment

Season 1, Episode 9: Giving Without Attachment

November 4, 2019

On this podcast I'll discuss the common strategy of saying “YES” or giving your time, talents and energy to everyone, automatically, without considering any alternate response.

You know who you are. The over-scheduled, stressed out, want to, but can’t do it all people. I’m talking to those who have stopped using a calendar, because they already know there is no room in it to put anything else.  Or, I’m talking to the person out there that has self-care booked in, a one hour time slot, once a week but still manages to book other things in it’s place. Even though self care is on the calendar, they never do self care.

I’m talking to those people today, that want something different, those people that want to be able to say no, without the guilt, without feeling bad.  I’m talking to everyone who gives, because they believe they are supposed to give. Because that is the right thing to do. That’s what you’ve been taught. That’s all you know.

Is that you?  Let me ask, ”How is it working for you?

Chances are the feel good, warm fuzzy feeling  in your heart you  expect to feel by saying yes, is not showing up and instead, you’re feeling overwhelmed, worn out, depleted, resentful, sad, disappointed and on and on.

This podcast includes part of a coaching session where my client shares a bit about her religious teachings and how the act giving has been muddied by childhood experiences and perceptual interpretations. Listen in as I work with her to isolate the motivation and thought processes surrounding the act of giving.

Get coached or Become a Life Coach. To learn more go to www.LoriBrant.com.

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Season 1: Episode 8. Celebrating The Win

Season 1: Episode 8. Celebrating The Win

October 26, 2019

This podcast shares a portion of a coaching session Lori has with a returning client.  She coaches a client to recognize her wins and shares insights for the importance of doing so.

Big change comes from all of the little wins and it’s vital that we take the time to celebrate each and every one of them, because they become our jumping off point for future actions. Celebrating our wins helps to align ourselves with who we really are and open us up to take the next movement forward from an aligned space.

The actions we decide to take, to break a habit are incredibly powerful as they each help to draw us back into alignment.  When we discount their value, we knock ourselves out of alignment, by focusing instead on the outside, the future or the past. 

If we are wanting, long lasting change or if we want to create a new life affirming habit then we need to create a strong, powerful foundation from which it can grow. That, comes from acknowledging, feeling, contemplating and reflecting on our wins.

Alternatively, if we fluff over them, sit in the “what didn’t work,” then that, becomes the foundation of our next movement forward. Our next actions become rooted in heavy, unaligned, outwardly focused, lack ridden mentality. Chances of us sticking to our plan when it’s planted in that is slim to none.

To Be Coached, Become a Coach or attend the Unleash Your Greatness Conference go to www.LoriBrant.com.

 

Season 1, Episode 7: Coaching Session - I need to be busy

Season 1, Episode 7: Coaching Session - I need to be busy

August 29, 2019

I have found that clients want what they want, to acquire things, achieve things, experience things because they want to feel a certain way.  They believe that something outside of them will trigger the feeling that they crave within them. 

During this session, the client has expressed the desire to find herself, to have a purpose. For her, being busy is synonymous with having purpose. This appears to be because when she was busy raising her children, she felt deeply connected and valued.

Now that her children are older and she has more time on her hands, she’s struggling to find that same value and connection in her everyday life.

It would be easier to coach this client to “DO” something else to keep her busy but coaching her to rely on outside circumstances to feel happy, would be setting her up to end up right back where she started. Everything outside of us changes. If we depend on it to feel a certain way, and it changes,..how we feel will change. 

If the client can experience connection without relying on what is outside of her, she’ll experience the freedom she craves regardless of outside circumstances, regardless of the activity.

To learn more about one on one coaching, mentoring for coaches or Life Coach certification go to www.LoriBrant.com

To learn more about the Unleash Your Greatness Conference go to www.unleashmygreatness.com 

Season1, Episode 6: Interview with Gina Hatzis

Season1, Episode 6: Interview with Gina Hatzis

August 23, 2019

Lori Brant interviews Gina Hatzis, who has become an internet sensation with over 40 million views of her Too Much Woman video. 

Gina's personal journey as a Too Much Woman has touched the hearts of many. Too sensitive, too big, too bold, too much were the messages she heard over and over again forming the belief system she lived by into her 40's. Recognizing that the version of Gina that people loved or admired was not the true essence of who she was, she decided not to dim her light any longer.  “This knowing washed over me that told me I had something else I needed to tell.  This isn’t my story anymore. I am the vessel speaking on behalf of so many people who are not showing up fully as themselves.  It’s OK to show up in all the ways you’ve been told is wrong.”

Lori and Gina discuss the process of how she reclaimed who she really was, which included her femininity, sexuality, her body, her sensitive nature, and all the parts that were determined to be too much. The process changed her life and opened her up to deeply loving herself in ways she never knew was possible. A recovering journalist, Gina has spent the past 25 years as an International Corporate and Public Speaker, specializing in soulful leadership, stellar communication and epic empowerment.

She’s also a blogger, a writer, a spoken word artist and the host of her show Spiritual G Spot, broadcasting in over 70 countries worldwide and is currently on a global tour as the spearhead and Visionary for the Too Much Woman Movement, a platform for women shine fully in their glory.

When she's not speaking, writing, dancing or singing carpool karaoke, she is mothering her amazing teenagers and desperately trying to convince them she is still dope.

Her first book, Celebrating the Too Much Woman is hot off the press!

You can connect with her on social media at Gina Hatzis or at www.ginahatzis.com.

To learn more about one on one coaching with Lori Brant go to www.LoriBrant.com. 

To learn more about limiting beliefs and how to transform them attend the Unleash Your Greatness Conference.

Season 1, Episode 5: Coaching Session - I Can Take Care Of Myself

Season 1, Episode 5: Coaching Session - I Can Take Care Of Myself

August 19, 2019

Lori worked with this client for eight sessions over a two-month period. At the beginning, she shared how her anxiety, physical pain and fatigue kept her from taking care of herself financially.

Through the coaching process, it was revealed that when she was a child, her father expected her mother to do all the chores and also, that my client should not help her mother. It was very explicit. If she helped her mother, that would be an indication that she was being disloyal to her father and he would get upset. 

She also expressed, that if she did what he said and didn’t do any chores, he would shower attention and love on her making her feel deserving and “like a princess.” The limiting belief fuelling financial dependence, “I shouldn't work.”

Lori worked with this client on mindset, personal self-care and developed specific actions each week to support her financial independence. By challenging her limiting beliefs she was able to open up to alternate perceptions that supported her expansion and growth, like, I don’t need to be taken care of, and I’m better off not being taken care of.

During this call, the client expresses her desire to create a plan for her long-term goal of moving to Scotland or Ireland.  It may all seem really simple but it was amazing to listen in on her openness, strength and fearlessness to move forward. 

In 8 weeks this client has transformed how she chooses to live her life and is embracing her new life affirming belief that she absolutely can take care of herself.

The client sent me an email after this session stating, "My anxiety really had me in a hole. And making that one huge shift of taking care of myself financially really made me feel like I am more capable than I thought I was. My decision to end my relationship and take hold of my life to do something drastic and wonderful for ME is what is coming out of that shift. I'm sad about losing the relationship. But I know it's the right decision."

To learn more about one on one coaching, mentoring for coaches or Life Coach certification go to www.LoriBrant.com

To learn more about the Unleash Your Greatness Conference go to www.unleashmygreatness.com 

Season 1 Episode 4: Coaching Session - I Can’t Say No

Season 1 Episode 4: Coaching Session - I Can’t Say No

August 14, 2019

Brenda, Lori’s coaching client is wanting to love herself wholly,..completely, and experience the freedom of that.  However, until she tunes in to her body and her feelings, those buried emotions are going to travel with her and into her present experience.

Sometimes, we avoid feeling our pain by running away or pushing it down into the corners of our being hoping it will just go away or subside but it doesn’t work. These emotions that we refuse to feel get all clumped together like a ball of play doh in the grass. It’s hard to separate the little bits and distinguish between all the feelings, like shame, unworthiness, or being loveable or enough.

We can meditate for hours, do yoga and recite affirmations, but if we are not questioning, identifying, feeling and understanding the ball of limiting beliefs,.. and the emotions attached to them, they will forever be infiltrating our present day experience.                          

Being a people pleaser, trying to make everyone else happy are often strategies we use to avoid triggering those buried painful emotions. The strategies, which were created to keep us safe or to avoid pain can actually be doing the opposite by keeping us in a perpetual state of stress. By constantly keeping us focussed on the outside, or on other people our energy is spent trying not to trigger old pain rather than being aligned, present and living from our natural state of peace and calm.

To love herself just as she is or to feel worthy of what she has,…. it will require her to know the difference between how it feels to be aligned with the essence or who she is and how it feels to be operating from the emotional ball of limiting beliefs.

You’ll listen in as I work diligently to get her to establish the experiential benchmarks to what it is she is wanting, rather than allowing her to “run away from what it is she doesn’t want.”

 

To learn more about one on one coaching, mentoring for coaches or Life Coach certification go to www.LoriBrant.com

To learn more about the Unleash Your Greatness Conference go to www.unleashmygreatness.com 

                   

Season 1, Episode 3: Coaching Session - Clarity

Season 1, Episode 3: Coaching Session - Clarity

August 13, 2019

Aly, like many new Life Coaches is trying to Brand and distinguish herself from other life Coaches by trying to use her unique personal experiences to set her apart.  She is finding it difficult to achieve a balance between sharing her story and what she can bring to the coaching conversation, while still adhering to the premise of coaching and having the session centred around the client.

Finding a balance required a deeper understanding about how she empowered herself, how she could translate and convey that understanding as a strategy to potential clients through marketing. Lori helped the client to summarize what she had learned and how it could be applied in creating content for marketing platforms including social media, blog, book and more.

To learn more about one on one coaching, mentoring for coaches or Life Coach certification go to www.LoriBrant.com

To learn more about the Unleash Your Greatness Conference go to www.unleashmygreatness.com 

Season 1, Episode 2: Coaching Session - Strategies That No Longer Serve Us

Season 1, Episode 2: Coaching Session - Strategies That No Longer Serve Us

August 11, 2019

Lori coaches a gentleman named Mike, who described what he wanted by reading his favorite Morgan Freeman quote,

“Self-control is strength. Calmness is mastery. You have to get to a point where your mood doesn’t shift based on the insignificant actions of someone else. Don’t allow others to control the direction of your life. Don’t allow your emotions to empower your intelligence.”

Mike, like many others, recognizes himself getting upset or angry over what appears to be insignificant or trivial matters and can’t understand why he reacts this way. He continually processes negative thoughts about a situation, and gets angrier and angrier to the point where he often will snap at whoever is around. 

These responses are having a profound impact on how he feels about himself and his relationships with others. Mike is seeking coaching because he is tired of reacting this way and hurting the people he loves.

Strategies are often created as a response to a limiting belief and can operate undetected, unchecked or verified in multiple areas of our lives. Through coaching, Lori helps Mike identify an outdated strategy that appears to be operating in his life today. This outdated strategy served Mike in the past to move through a difficult time, but now, is laden with strong, negative emotional ties that erupt during everyday life.  Lori indicates that this type of experience is an example of an exaggerated response which she talks about in her book, “The Happiness Toolbox: Finding happiness regardless of circumstances.

By identifying what’s not working, Lori helps Mike to begin developing a new, life affirming strategy to disrupt his old, habitual way of responding so he can begin living life from a state of peace and calm regardless of outside circumstances.

If you’re interested in One on One Coaching go to www.LoriBrant.com to learn more. To learn more about the Unleash Your Greatness Conference go to www.unleashmygreatness.com .

Season 1, Episode 1: Coaching Session: Shutting Down

Season 1, Episode 1: Coaching Session: Shutting Down

August 11, 2019

Lori has a one on one coaching session with a client who often finds herself in a state of anxiety that is sustained by a constant barrage of negative thoughts.  These thoughts stem from a history of mistreatment and are often triggered by similar experiences in present day. The prominent limiting beliefs in this session are that people take advantage of her and people hurt her.

We listen in on how she tries to protect herself by anticipating hurt, continuously bracing herself for the next shoe to drop.  It is unveiled that this system is not protecting her,.. but instead,… the system itself,.. is what is hurting her, because it keeps her in a perpetual state of anxiety.

This old, outdated strategy that was created to cope and keep her protected is actually creating more stress in her life. By constantly projecting out into the future about what might go wrong, what someone might do, or say and then projecting what can be done to protect herself she actually is recreating the hurt now, in the present moment and every moment after that. So not only are people in her life triggering the hurt, she is triggering the hurt herself through her projected thoughts.

Her name has been deleted throughout the podcast at her request.

For more information about one on one coaching, or Life Coach Certification Training go to www.LoriBrant.com. To learn about the Unleash Your Greatness Conference go to www.unleashmygreatness.com