February 17, 2020
My client today finds herself exhausted. As a self-proclaimed control freak, she insists that being in control is necessary because one time when she stopped trying to figure things out, it was a disaster.
Often times in a first session, a lot of information surfaces, a lot of beliefs come to light but usually there is one that seems to garner attention. In this session, we identified that the predominant limiting belief preventing the client from achieving her goal of being OK with what is, is that she believes, “if she is not in control, her life will be a disaster.”
On one hand, she wants to live life in a state of allowing, to trust that what is happening, should be happening. On the other hand, she has this powerful belief that to let go, to stop trying to figure things out, will result in a disastrous life. No wonder she feels exhausted.
As you listen in, you’ll hear the client share how she was spoiled and became accustomed to getting what she wants. Now, as an adult, when things don’t work out as planned, it doesn’t sit well with her. This feeling of discomfort often gets misconstrued as inner wisdom instead of the emotional response to a triggered limiting belief. The belief that, if she doesn’t get what she wants, she needs to do something else.
The client’s belief that she should do something different often results in her not following through on projects, or moving onto new ones so she can get rid of the discomfort or what she calls “not sitting well.”
To have the belief, “that you always get what you want,” is in itself, not a limiting belief. If I am aligned with my true self, and I believe that everything is for me, that I always have everything I need, exactly what I should have, then I don’t feel the need for anything else. I want what I have. The Universe always gives me what I need therefore I have what I want.
It becomes a limiting belief when we perceive that what we have is not what we want. That perception draws us out of alignment and into a state of lack.
When we take action when we are out of alignment, in this case to move on to a new project, we are taking action to try and relieve the discomfort of being out of alignment. In this case, get relief from it “not sitting well,” the fear, shame of giving up and feeling of weakness. Any action taken out of alignment, creates more of what it was birthed from,…lack. This fuels the pattern, fuels the hamster wheel. To stop the pattern, the first step is to recognize there is a pattern.
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